As I mentioned previously, I am a huge fan of Brene Brown, and I have adopted her 10 Guidepost for Wholehearted Living into my personal and professional lives.
In her book, The Gifts of Imperfection, Mrs. Brown identifies Guidepost #7 as Cultivating Play and Rest: Letting go of exhaustion as a status symbol and productivity as self-worth.
I have been known to do a mindfulness mediation and take a little power nap in the afternoon.
By 7PM every evening, that is my time to stop working, have dinner, read, watch television, take a shower and prepare for bed.
For me, I have come to recognize the fact that I need at least eight-hours of sleep each night to be my best the next day.
Whether it is with my business manager, a client, or my partner, there is always some sort of playing that goes on in the day.
Yes, even adults need time to loosen up, let go, and have fun.
Recently, I had the privilege of taking ten days to go on holiday to Santa Barbara – alone.
Most of the traveling I have done in my adult life has been alone.
In fact, I quite enjoy the time away.
Typically, I am a structured and scheduled during any given week.
My calendar is filled with appointments and a list of things-to-do and accomplish.
It was a refreshing treat to go away, not have a schedule (more of an outline), and spend quality time with myself.
Most of the time, I had my phone turned off and enjoyed the silence without the distractions of phone calls, social media, and email.
Each morning, I would wake up without the assistance of an alarm.
After showering, I would walk across the street to the coffee shop and bakery where I would have my latte and fruit tart. (I admit it. Some habits are hard to break; especially, when they come to rituals.)
Have you ever needed a vacation after coming back from vacation?
I have found; it is best for me to plan one event a day, so I don’t exhaust myself.
While I was away, I had an antiques shopping day, a clothing shopping day, a museum day, a horseback riding day, a spa day, a beach day and plenty of time for reading, writing, meditating, relaxing, and napping.
Most of my trips would last until 2PM or 3PM.
It gave me time to come back home, relax, and refresh before dinner.
I prefer to eat early at 5PM or 6PM, as I like to take my time, and enjoy a meal of at least 3-courses.
Eating alone, it gave me an opportunity to really enjoy the food and be mindful of what I was eating.
Sometimes, when dining with someone else or a party, I am engaged in cheerful conversation and might not enjoy the nuance of the each dish.
I only had a few places on my list that I wanted to eat, so it also gave me an opportunity to ask the servers for recommendations of restaurants to try.
I love food, and believe a well-lived life includes eating well without worrying about calories, carbohydrates, and a myriad of other concerns.
In our home, we do not have a bathtub, so any chance I get to take a bath is a luxury for me.
Each night, I would return home and take a bath by candle light, with classical music playing, with my bath oils.
It was a great way to unwind and prepare for bed.
After drying off, I would put on my comfy pajamas and curl up in bed with one of my books until I fell asleep.
One of my guilty pleasures is spa treatments – manicures, pedicures, facials, and massages.
At home, I usually have a manicure and pedicure twice a month as a treat to myself.
In addition, at least once a month, I have a facial and a massage.
These little luxuries keep me looking and feeling my best.
I treated myself to a spa day in Santa Barbara at Float Luxury Spa where I had an invigorating body scrub, a deep cleaning facial, and a masterful massage that relieved any tension.
One day, I ventured to Santa Ynez to the Circle Bar B Ranch and had a 4-hour horseback riding tour through the mountains.
Once we had reached the apex of the mountain, I had a 360-degree view of the ocean and the beautiful landscape of this area.
There is something wonderful about horseback riding.
It is very slow paced and allows you time to really enjoy the scenery.
Sometimes, I really have to walk away from the day-to-day of work, focus, re-energize, and make a plan of action to move forward.
I spent a couple of days going to the beach for just a couple of hours.
It allowed me to get still and quiet without any distractions.
I would sit on the beach, close my eyes, and listen.
For me, the beach is my place of rejuvenation and peace.
After my ten days of being away, I came back to Los Angeles with a new mindset and optimistic about my work, building my company, and distinct plans for the future.
I truly believe, if each of us would take time in our day for rest, peace and quiet, and enjoying the simple luxuries of life, we would live much more fulfilling lives.
Finally, don't forget to laugh, have fun, and play!